“Are My Gay Dating Standards Too High? 5 Signs That Point to Yes” for DatingAdvice.com

As a professional gay dating coach and matchmaker, I have trepidation if someone has been single for a very long time. I think that, as mammals, we are meant to find a mate. Call me sappy, but I don’t think a person has lived their life completely without the connection he or she can have to a soul mate.

In the years I’ve worked in this business, I’ve unpacked the laundry list of attributes, both physical and emotional, clients say they want in a partner. When I do that, they quickly realize that the pool of suitors becomes very small, and their claim of being open-minded about whom they’re willing to date is more wishful thinking and less fact.

Here are my top five reasons that your standards may be harming you in your dating journey.

1. You Won’t Date Anyone Shorter Than You

The average American male is around 5 feet, 9 inches tall. And only 15% of American men are over 6 feet. What I find redeeming about gay men is that we are not as persnickety in regard to height preferences as females. I find that most gay men these days aren’t worried about wearing high heels and towering over their date.

Confidence is the driving force for someone concerned about height. How would you rate your confidence on a scale of one to 10? I’ve met many men over the years who were super tall and timid, and I was turned off by their personality. Bigger is not necessarily better in this case. If you’re attracted to someone and they are shorter than what you normally prefer, don’t be afraid to take the leap. You may be surprised.

2. You’re Too Picky About Your Date’s Lifestyle

Being an Angeleno for the past several years, I’ve realized that my classic low-key Southern roots can sometimes clash with the bright lights of the Hollywood lifestyle. I remember meeting men who only wanted to date someone who strictly flew first class.

As a dating coach and matchmaker, I’ve always found it frustrating when I present a date candidate to a client, and he asks how many cars and houses the person has, as he only wants to date someone with a multiple of each. Needless to say, his matchmaking file was archived. I don’t want someone to mentally archive you.

A lot of these men mean well, but they come off as pompous and arrogant to someone more self-assured. Are you that person wanting to date someone with a certain socioeconomic lifestyle? My suggestion is to meet someone in the middle if you truly enjoy their company.

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