I’ve been a professional dating coach and matchmaker for over seven years now, and people don’t hire someone like me if they are happy with the current state of affairs in regard to their love life.
A lot of singles come to me because they want me to be their investigator. It’s my job to identify and recognize their roadblocks. They pay me to point out certain things in their behavior that may cause hurdles in their dating practices.
Many clients will ask me, “Mason, do you think I’m too picky?” I will say that if you ask that question, chances are, you already know the answer. Here are my top three signs that you may be pickier than you think.
1. Instead of Dating Someone as They Are Now, You Want to Date Who They Will Become
I feel like we are always seeking a partner who can be our best cheerleader, psychologist, and strategist. However, I find that some men only wish to date someone who has attributes they either don’t have themselves, or fills a deep need or insecurity.
Relationships will also have a balance to them, and it’s my personal belief that everyone wants to meet their equal in some capacity.
A friend of a friend I often run into at social events always talks about wanting to date someone 15 to 20 years younger. I think we can all agree that a 25-year-old doesn’t have a lot in common with a 45-year-old.
He always knew and recognized that he would be the provider in the relationship. When I had conversations with him, he would always say that he was picky. His pickiness would always be to his detriment, and his dating woes would always sound familiar.
Our mutual friend said to me in private that the definition of insanity is doing the same thing over and over and expecting a different result. I told our friend he should at least date a guy in his 30s who has somewhat of an established career but also has the exuberance of extraversion and youth that our friend admires. That extraversion and youth is what he was attracted to in men in their 20s.
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